“Tim Keller once defined forgiveness as resolving not to bring the offence up again with God, with the person who offended us, or with ourselves. Often it is the final one of these that is the most difficult.” Sam Allberry, Why Bother With Church?
“My mother once said the world would never find peace until men fell at their women’s feet and asked for forgiveness. This is true all over the world, in the jungles of Mexico, in the back streets of Shanghai, in New York cocktail bars, husbands are getting drunk while the women stay home with the babes of their ever darkening future. If these men stop the machine and come home and get on their knees and ask for forgiveness and the women bless them, peace will suddenly descend on the earth with a great silence like the inherent silence of the apocalypse.” -Jack Kerouac, On The Road
Reconciliation needs to happen in the shadow of the cross. Because one subtle threat to reconciliation is that I may ‘take this person back’ into my life, but only as someone I now deem to be inferior to me. I’ll take them back on my agenda, not God’s. At the cross, I realize how problematic it is: my sins caused monstrous harm to someone too–they caused the death of the Son of God. At the cross I see my sin, but also the goal of the Gospel which is that my brother with whom I am angry would have an “equal share” in the inheritance of the kingdom (Col. 1:12-14).
“We are not merely imperfect creatures who must be improved: we are, as Newman said, rebels who must lay down our arms.” -C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain
“Nothing that we despise in the other person is entirely absent from ourselves.” -Dietrich Bonhoeffer
“Genesis 3 shows what we most need. If you are a Marxist, what you need are revolutionaries and decent economists. If you are a psychologist, what you need is an army of counselors. If you think that the root of all breakdown and disorder is medical, what you really need is large numbers of Mayo Clinics. But if our first and most serious need is to be reconciled to God–a God who now stands over against us and pronounces death upon us because of our willfully chosen rebellion–then what we need the most, though we may have all of these other derivative needs, is to be reconciled to him. We need someone to save us.” -D.A. Carson