“For as the offence is against an infinite glorious God, so the holy works are wrought by one as Infinite.” -Mark Jones, God is
A. W. Tozer: “When God justifies a sinner, everything in God is on the sinner’s side. All the attributes of God are on the sinner’s side. It isn’t that mercy is pleading for the sinner and justice is trying to beat him to death. All of God does all that God does.” Attributes of God
“Grace is the gift of God’s beneficent presence and activity–that is, the communication of God’s own light, life, and love to those who have neither the right to them nor a claim on God.” -Kevin Vanhoozer, Biblical Authority after Babel
“Grace is love that cares and stoops and rescues.” -John Stott, Christ the Controversialist
“When we had sinned beyond any help in heaven or earth, then thou saidest, lo, I come!” -George Herbert
If you treat people like projects for you to improve, then when they don’t want to participate in that project you will inevitably treat them as a waste of time or you will feel threatened by them–because all you are seeing in them is something that needs fixing.
But the Bible instead calls us simply to love our neighbor as ourselves. This changes the motive to intervene. Our interest in people’s growth becomes selfless because it is based on love, instead of a “need to fix” them. It changes how we intervene.
It means ‘I want to help them, but I love them even without improvement, and I love them even if the pace of improvement is considerably slower or different from what “I” wanted.’
That is giving up control. It re-humanizes people so that we treat them like people and not just ‘projects.’
“however initiated and supported by Grace, [it] is something we must do.” -C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
BTW: This addresses the issue that God enables us to serve him, while also not toning down the fact that we must do it.